Autumn

Autumn and I share a beautiful history that stretches all the way back to junior high, where her mom, Londa, was my 7th grade choir teacher. I remember truly valuing that class—not just because of the music, but because it was clear Londa was an exceptional teacher and an even better human being.

In 8th grade, I was nominated for an award, and Londa shared something that stuck with me ever since.

She wrote:

“I really missed not having Brett in my class these past years, but I still get to engage with this wonderful young man because he approaches me regularly to say hey, or ask how I’m doing, and just to chat sometimes. It is impressive that he cares and is interested in how I’M doing. I appreciate that he takes the time to seek me out and approach me to make that contact.”

Now, years later, I find myself grateful every day that I get to continue those conversations, this time with Londa’s daughter. Reconnecting with Autumn has not only brought her back into my life but also introduced me to her amazing father and wonderful siblings.

Autumn and I started dating about 10 months ago, after years of simply knowing each other. I had always remembered her smile and our lighthearted conversations, especially about her family, since her mom was a figure I admired so much growing up. On our first date, we went to Gavi’s, then to Loews Ventana Canyon—which ended up being the place I would later propose. That night, something shifted. I knew I had met someone I truly wanted to build something with. It started as a relationship, but within just a month, I knew: this was the woman I wanted to build a life with.

One of my favorite memories with Autumn was our trip to Prescott to visit my close friend Jacob Hart and his now-wife, Vanessa. Autumn was visibly nervous—not because she was shy or afraid, but because she understood how important that moment was to me. It was eye-opening to see someone outside of my family and inner circle care so deeply about what I cared about. That’s just who she is—deeply caring, intentional, and full of grace.

A close runner-up memory was the night of my graduation. Not because of the achievement itself, but because of the way Autumn stepped up. It was the first time our families were meeting, and I was down on the field preparing for the ceremony, fully expecting to feel overwhelmed. Yet Autumn managed everything—guiding everyone, making sure things ran smoothly, and doing it all with calm leadership and minimal stress. That moment solidified something for me. She’s someone I can trust, lean on, and admire. And honestly, that kind of trust is incredibly attractive.

Telling my mom I wanted to marry Autumn was hilariously anticlimactic—she already knew. She had sensed it coming and, like the rest of my family and friends, completely supported it. That kind of overwhelming affirmation from the people I love most only confirmed what I already knew: Autumn is the one. Watching her connect so easily with my mom and soon-to-be stepdad, Chuck, was another sign of how naturally she fits into the life I’ve built.

Autumn and I have pursued our relationship quietly, separate from social media, choosing depth over display. We’ve never sought external validation, instead focusing on creating a meaningful connection and leaning on the insight of people we love and trust. One of the most special decisions we made was to get engaged and not post anything online. It made the moment feel sacred—just for us and our families. When I proposed that idea to her, she immediately agreed, and it’s one of my favorite shared decisions we’ve made so far.

Not long ago, we visited my grandparents, Mary and Dan, in Heber, AZ. I always love making the trip out there to escape the chaos of the city and soak in their stories and warmth. This visit was extra special because Autumn came with me, and we brought the big news of our engagement—though they had already guessed it from a photo. Our plan was to stay for just one night, but after the first day, Autumn turned to me and asked if we could stay another. She didn’t know it at the time, but that small moment meant the world to me—and even more to my grandparents. She genuinely enjoys being part of my family, and that makes all the difference.

Autumn carries a beautiful energy. Her smile is like nothing I’ve ever seen, and her sense of humor constantly catches me off guard—in the best way. Since she’s come into my life, everything has been brighter, fuller, and more joyful. I told her recently, “The younger me would be so proud of the woman I chose to marry.” And it’s true. She’s changed my life in ways I never could’ve imagined.

To the Hopkins family—thank you. Thank you for raising someone so full of love, light, and strength. I look forward to growing closer with all of you in the years to come.

To my family—Mom, Dad, and everyone who has guided me and shown me unwavering love and support throughout my life—thank you for everything. Your wisdom and encouragement mean the world.

And to Autumn: I’m so proud to be your future husband. I can’t wait to call you my wife.